Feeling Stuck in Life? Here Are 3 Principles to Help You Break Free FAST

Sometimes, life feels like you’re sprinting in place. Or like that dream where you’re running away from something but your legs are made of lead. I hate that one. Either way, if you’re feeling stuck in life—whether it’s about finding your purpose, aligning your career, or just feeling blah—you’re definitely not alone. The good thing is that there’s always a way to move forward. Let’s dive into three potent principles that can help you shake off that stagnation: The Law of Assumption, The Law of Polarity, and embracing a Gratitude Mindset. If you prefer to watch rather than read, you can check out a recent YouTube video I made where I get serious about using this stuff to change your life for the better. I’ll be breaking them down into more detail below.

What’s the Law of Assumption?

The Law of Assumption is all about how our beliefs create our reality. In simpler terms, if you believe something to be true, your actions and perceptions will follow suit and make it real for you. It’s about tapping into the power of belief to manifest changes in your life. The world reacts to what you are putting out, and if your assumptions are telling the world around you the kind of person you are then it will reflect that back to you. So often we aren’t consciously co-creating our lives and the assumptions we live with every day become automatic, focusing on all of the negative and all of the things we don’t want. You have to make the decisions to flip the script until the person you are operating as matches the person you want to be.

How to Put It Into Action

1. Visualize Your Dream Life: Dedicate a few moments each day to envision your life as if you’ve already achieved your goals. Picture the details and feel the joy of success.
2. Affirmations: Use positive affirmations to back up your beliefs. Say things like, “I am thriving in my career” or “I am uncovering my true purpose.”
3. Journaling/Scripting: Keep a journal where you write as if you’ve already accomplished what you desire. This helps embed those beliefs in your subconscious.
4. Back Your Work Up: Try out some alternative methods of rewiring your psyche to more fully embody this new set of beliefs. I recommend practices like tapping, hypnosis, and subliminals.

Real-Life Inspiration

When I knew it was time to sell my old house after my divorce and move somewhere new, I was nervous about how I would find the perfect place. I knew exactly the kind of house I wanted, but I was convinced at first that there was no way I could find a home like that for rent. My assumption about there being no single family homes for rent in my area that would be within my budget pervaded my search for such a place, and unsurprisingly, I found none. I had all but resigned myself to a different situation, but then I decided to try utilizing the law of assumption to change my reality.

My new daily ritual started with visualizing my perfect little cottage home in the woods. I imagined finding out about the house, seeing the house, signing the paperwork, and moving in. Then I focused on the emotions I would feel if that were happening. I also scripted the tale out in past tense, as if I was recollecting the story after it had already happened. I reread that story alongside a gratitude list that included gratitude for my perfect new home and how easy the process of finding and moving into it was. Then – I started tapping on the matter and recorded some affirmations about how worthy I was of receiving the perfect house that I listened to regularly.

I did this for a few weeks, and along the way I enlisted a real estate agent friend of mine to help me find something. Then one day she called me – she had found the absolute perfect place – a little single-family home on a quiet street in the woods. It was for rent, it was across the street from a beautiful park, and it wasn’t even listed on the normal sites yet. This allowed us to contact them immediately, set up a viewing for the next day, and put in the first application for it once I had confirmed that it was exactly what I wanted.

We waited a month before hearing from the owner that out of over 100 applicants for the home, he had chosen me. I moved in and now I live in my perfect little cottage in the woods. Had I not thrown the law of assumption gauntlet at the situation, I don’t know if I would have been a match to that opportunity because my beliefs would have held me back from even being open to it happening in the first place. Perhaps none of the pieces would have fallen into place had I not started acting based on the assumption that this house would be a part of my future.

What is the Law of Polarity?

The Law of Polarity tells us that everything has an opposite—and by understanding both sides, we can find balance. When you feel stuck, recognizing that every situation has its ups and downs can help shift your mindset. Another benefit of understanding this principle is that by identifying what you don’t want, you uncover evidence of what you do want. Try to remember that life is a big game and as we make our way in the world we are collecting data. We discover things we prefer and things we don’t prefer. Let your data guide you to making conclusions about what should be prioritized in your life. Send your focus and your energy and your attention there, and your world will accommodate this new clarity by responding in kind with things that match your point of attention.

How to Embrace It

1. See Challenges as Lessons: Treat challenges as chances to learn. Ask yourself, “What’s the lesson here? What do I know now about myself that I didn’t realize before?”
2. Reframe Negativity: When negative thoughts pop up, look for their positive counterparts. For instance, if you’re anxious about your career, consider the skills you’re honing during this time. Train your mind to take things that might seem negative on the outside, and find the silver lining and the lesson. Let that be what you take away from the experience, rather than allowing it to carve negative assumptions into your operating instructions.
3. Mindfulness Practices: Engage in meditation or mindfulness to become aware of your thoughts. This helps you observe them without getting caught up in judgment. When you find yourself focused on what you don’t want, train yourself to recognize that and redirect your focus to what you do want.

Real-Life Inspiration

I’m sure you’ve heard the Taoist parable of the Chines farmer whose son falls off of a horse and breaks his leg. When the other villagers tell him how sorry they are that his son has broken his leg and can’t work anymore he simply says “Good thing, bad thing, who knows?” (in some versions he just says “maybe”). Then as the story progresses we learn that it was actually a good thing that his son had broken his leg, because it saves him from being conscripted to the army and leaving for a war that would likely cost him his life. As things happen, the man keeps hearing from people how they believe he should respond to life, and he always answers with the same phrase, teaching the lesson that we don’t always know whether something is ultimately going to end up being good or bad for us in the long-run, so it’s best to allow life to flow and be open to the “maybe” presented in every situation.

There is a phrase I come back to often that has a similar meaning. “Life is happening for you, not to you.” I find it essential to remember that if we only react in the short-term to the ups and downs of life, we end up riding an emotional rollercoaster that may end up bringing on pointless suffering. Say you lose your job, in the moment you might freak out and allow yourself to fall into despair, experiencing a host of emotions like anxiety, fear, and depression. But what is you apply for a new job the next week that ends up working out better than you ever imagined, and within a short time you find yourself upgrading your life in a way that enhances your happiness, abundance, and situation in life. Getting fired looked bad at first, but in the end it was a good thing that may have been a necessary step in moving you to something better.

Each situation has an opposite, and experiencing one side of it might be exactly what you need to launch you to the side you prefer. It’s not always easy, but try to remember that life is happening for you, not to you, and when something seems bad, it could be leading you to the good on the other side of it, just wait and see.

What is a Gratitude Mindset?

Having a gratitude mindset means focusing on the positives in your life, which can shift your perspective from what’s lacking to what you already have. This powerful shift can help you feel unstuck, cultivate joy, and put yourself in the right vibrational state to attract more positive things into your life.

How to Cultivate It

1. Gratitude Journaling: Each day, jot down three things you’re grateful for. This simple practice can help you spotlight the good in your life. I also throw in three “awesomes” each morning, that’s three things that “would be awesome” if they happened today.
2. Gratitude Walks: Take a stroll and consciously appreciate your surroundings. Notice the beauty around you, the kindness of others, and the joy in little things.
3. Thank-You Notes: Write notes to those who’ve positively impacted your life. Expressing gratitude can enhance your connections and overall well-being.
4. Reframe the Negative: Using what you learned about the Law of Polarity, try to look at every situation and consciously choose to focus on the positive things you can find in it, as well as the potential it creates for you to learn or take something good away.

Real-Life Inspiration

After my divorce, I picked myself up and decided that I was going to use this experience to grow and become a better person. One of the first practices I adopted in order to start my process of growing and healing was to start morning gratitudes. I did this for a year straight every single day. I wrote five things I was grateful for, and then I scripted a list of things I was manifesting that I was also grateful for (in present tense). I wrote my gratitudes and read my manifestation script every morning, and I began the day with a focus on gratitude and positive change in my life. I found this really motivating, and it helped give me the energy and focus I needed to start pursuing things that would support this change.

When things happened that I could have seen as setbacks or challenges, I began to realize that my mind naturally went to the potential positive outcomes that could come out of it rather than focusing on the negative. I found that I had trained my mind to instinctively see things as good, and that helped me through the transition and all of the difficult things that came along with it, while maintaining a pretty positive and hopeful mindset.

A daily gratitude practice can train your brain to see things as net positive instead of net negative, and when you get to that place you are now operating with a gratitude mindset. This mindset can lead you through life’s ups and downs with more resilience and allow you to align effortlessly to the things you want to come into your life as you function at a higher frequency than someone who constantly focuses on the negative and the bad aspects of every situation.

I Get It, Love. Change is easier dreamed of than done. Getting unstuck often requires a real shift in how we think. By embracing the Law of Assumption, the Law of Polarity, and cultivating a Gratitude Mindset, you can follow in my footsteps and unlock new paths and opportunities. Remember, your journey is uniquely yours, and these principles are simply tools to guide you along the way.

So, what beliefs and assumptions are holding you back? How can you acknowledge the duality in your current situation? And what are you grateful for right now, today? Reflecting on these questions could be the key to getting unstuck and moving toward a life filled with purpose and ease.

• Law of Assumption Workbook I like
• Book on The Twelve Laws of the Universe to expand your knowledge
• The Five Minute Journal – a daily gratitude, mindfulness, and reflection journal

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